Discipline, It’s Not What I Thought It Was. For years now, part of my story has been that I lacked discipline. This limiting belief came from my high school days. I had thought I cracked the code way back then… Not!
Picture this with me: He was sitting on a twin mattress in the corner of a tiny efficiency apartment. I think they call them “studios” now to make it seem more glamorous. Either way, there he was… surveying his entire kingdom. He looked out over the vastness of his worldly possessions.
- a mattress/sofa/recliner (all in one)
- a chair
- a (tiny) table
- a sauce pan (WITH a lid)
- a bag of popcorn
- a toothbrush and razor
- and some cloths
Livin the dream! Not!
What happened? My prevailing thought was, “This is not right! I’m too young to be destitute!” You see I had this goal of becoming a millionaire by the time I reached 30 years of age. The prospect of arriving in Millionaireville was growing more remote by the day.
As I sat there on that mattress, thinking and wondering. I asked myself, “What am I missing? What do I need to do to get back on track to my destiny?” Then it hit me. “Discipline” That’s it, I lacked discipline in my life. I had floated downstream in the river of life and the river dumped me at the lowest point.
Well there’s the problem, but what’s the solution. I racked my brain. Where does an 18 year old high school dropout get himself some discipline?
Then I remembered! I remembered seeing some guys with discipline oozing from their pores. They were steeped in it! It was all OVER them! I remembered seeing the Marine Corps Silent Drill Team at the State Fair of Texas a few years prior.
That’s it! I need to join the Marines and get a healthy dose of discipline. I knew that with a little discipline, I’d be on my way to Millionaireville… for sure!
Millionaireville Or Bust
So I found a recruiter. He pulled some strings and this skinny kid was off the mattress and on a plane to Marine Corps Recruit Depot, San Diego, CA!
It worked. I got my discipline and I was on my way. Life was GREAT. I was focused. I was moving forward. I landed a great job with lots of responsibility and great pay. Then another, then another. I moved up in the world and took on executive leadership roles. I reached my ultimate goal in life.
But wait! Was it really “discipline” that got me where I wanted to go?
I believe I have shifted my paradigm about this whole discipline thing. You see, I am really not very disciplined. Left to my own devices, I’ll surf the web or screw around on Facebook for hours instead of writing a new article for my web site.
If I’m such an undisciplined wretch, what was it that allowed me to reach so many milestones in my life? What carried me from OneBoldMove to the next? What allowed me to achieve great success in business?
I have recently come to realize I’ve been obsessing over the wrong thing. This limiting belief that “I lack discipline” is not my issue at all. Sure discipline is important, but what is the antithesis of discipline? Could it be “distraction”?
The answer to that question is a resounding, ‘YES”!
Distraction… why do you haunt me so? Why have I chosen to let the stuff of life get in my way of climbing to new heights?
- My amazing English Bulldog
- Online Courses
These are all GREAT and AMAZING things… but dammit they have ALL been a distraction for me. It’s not their fault! I am in control of me but I have relinquished it to my STUFF! Why? Enough!
I believe that this paradigm shift coupled with some amazing tools that I picked up from Brendon Burchard and High Performance Academy have and will continue to create new results.
It wasn’t discipline that carried the day for me in the past. It was an intense focus on a clear purpose an absence of distraction. There were so many times where I was on a mission, I was laser focused and I was accomplishing great things in life. It looked a lot like discipline!
Here’s what Jack Canfield said, “Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.”
So, Now what?
It’s time! I am not willing to get to the end of my days and have to ask if I made a difference in this world! I am not willing to kick back and one day have a doctor tell me that I have some debilitating illness that I could have prevented. Nope! I’m on it! Welcome to the new me!
I have turned off, virtually all of my electronic alerts. It’s almost 11:30 and I have not checked email yet, I have not been on Facebook today, or Twitter. I have listed my projects and my priorities for today & am checking them off one by one. This post is just about to receive its check mark too.
I have some new affirmations… I can tell you that I am INTENTIONAL, I am ENERGETIC and I am ENTHUSIASTIC.
I am over trying to find discipline in my life. I am what I am. But I can assure you that the result of distancing myself from distractions will look a LOT like discipline on its surface. Call it what your will. I am on the move! Want to join me? Let’s ROLL!